Comments on: Your Value Changes As You Age (Part 2) http://souljava.org/your-value-changes-as-you-age-part-2/ musings on faith and culture Thu, 28 Jan 2010 06:33:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: I Can’t Park Anymore « Anyway… http://souljava.org/your-value-changes-as-you-age-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-11 I Can’t Park Anymore « Anyway… Wed, 18 Mar 2009 19:46:22 +0000 http://souljava.org/?p=34#comment-11 [...] of changing as you grow older…I read this blog that talked about our values changing as we [...] [...] of changing as you grow older…I read this blog that talked about our values changing as we [...]

]]> By: Jonathan http://souljava.org/your-value-changes-as-you-age-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Jonathan Wed, 04 Feb 2009 22:20:28 +0000 http://souljava.org/?p=34#comment-8 My wife always encourages me with these words..."be where you are". I've always thought my obssession with the future, with my vision, was a strength. But as I hit those middle years, and feel the disappointmet of my lack of achievement, I resonate with your thoughts. Maybe I'm not where I could have been because I tried to "be" there before it was time. Maybe I"m where I'm supposed to be. (That's not encouraging). Then again, maybe I'll finally learn to "be where I am". It's not easy. I love the lyric, "this is your life...are you who you want to be?" (Switchfoot...I think). Maybe "being" is the key that unlocks the door of opportunity. Or...maybe being helps me see the opportunities I'm missing when I'm overly concerned with what I'm doing. And most of those opportunities involve loving somebody, don't they? Maybe loving the people "where I am" is the key to the future I long for. Just a thought. My wife always encourages me with these words…”be where you are”. I’ve always thought my obssession with the future, with my vision, was a strength. But as I hit those middle years, and feel the disappointmet of my lack of achievement, I resonate with your thoughts. Maybe I’m not where I could have been because I tried to “be” there before it was time. Maybe I”m where I’m supposed to be. (That’s not encouraging). Then again, maybe I’ll finally learn to “be where I am”. It’s not easy. I love the lyric, “this is your life…are you who you want to be?” (Switchfoot…I think). Maybe “being” is the key that unlocks the door of opportunity. Or…maybe being helps me see the opportunities I’m missing when I’m overly concerned with what I’m doing. And most of those opportunities involve loving somebody, don’t they? Maybe loving the people “where I am” is the key to the future I long for. Just a thought.

]]> By: Matt Allison http://souljava.org/your-value-changes-as-you-age-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Matt Allison Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:28:46 +0000 http://souljava.org/?p=34#comment-7 "As a young man I was thoroughly infatuated with my vision for life. I was driven to achieve and to produce. I believed that my achievements would validate my life. I learned to be articulate and persuasive, to be passionate about my vision and to infect others with that passion. Yet I was egocentric. I tried to love people but my thoughts always came back to me. I tried to listen to people but my mind always drifted toward the things that I wanted to get done." - rarely are truer words spoken... luckily for "young" guys like me, we have the opportunity to be put in our place by those more wise. The question is, will we listen, or will we just get defensive and disregard? In part 1 you so elegantly posed the real crux of the matter: "The question is: how do you discern that value when your own coaching experience is limited?" - Hopefully by acknowledging that only true wisdom comes from One place and that my "coaching experience" is always going to be incredibly limited! “As a young man I was thoroughly infatuated with my vision for life. I was driven to achieve and to produce. I believed that my achievements would validate my life. I learned to be articulate and persuasive, to be passionate about my vision and to infect others with that passion. Yet I was egocentric. I tried to love people but my thoughts always came back to me. I tried to listen to people but my mind always drifted toward the things that I wanted to get done.” – rarely are truer words spoken… luckily for “young” guys like me, we have the opportunity to be put in our place by those more wise. The question is, will we listen, or will we just get defensive and disregard?

In part 1 you so elegantly posed the real crux of the matter:
“The question is: how do you discern that value when your own coaching experience is limited?” – Hopefully by acknowledging that only true wisdom comes from One place and that my “coaching experience” is always going to be incredibly limited!

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